About
the founder
The ocean doesn't negotiate. Neither does she. Go ALL IN or go home, love.
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The Lovergirl Life
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Identity Architect
Identity Architect ❋ The Lovergirl Life ❋ Author ❋ Identity Architect
What Sets Esensi Apart?
Esensi exists because one woman decided to stop almost becoming herself and built an entire ecosystem from that decision. Two brands. One foundation.
Esensi Resortwear ❋ for the woman who dresses like she means it. Pieces rooted in lineage, made for a life lived fully. Not fast fashion. Not trend-led. Honest luxury for the woman who already knows. Coming soon.
And then there is the identity work, the thing that runs through everything she does. As a business mentor, she sits with women who already have proof and helps them build a heart led business that finally matches who they are.
As a retreat host, she creates experiences that do not just inspire, they land and transform.
As the author of LOVERGIRL, she wrote 444 pages for the woman who does not need to be told who she is. She just needs the words that finally say it right.
3 different doors. One woman behind all of them. One thing she is always doing is helping her dream clients find their way back to themself.
What you wear, how you build, what you write, none of it has ever been separate. It was always identity. All of it.
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Sacred Over Fast
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Heart Over Ego, Always
❋ Identity Architect for Icons
Founder &
Creative Director
Mery
Agnetia
Surbakti
I am not going to tell you I had it all figured out.
I am going to tell you the truth.
I grew up between worlds: Dutch precision
and Indonesian soul
( Sumatran and Moluccan roots).
A woman who always felt tóo much for the rooms
she was in and not enough for the ones
she wanted to enter.
For years I searched. Deeply and sincerely.
Spirituality, new age ceremonies, every framework
that promised to fill what I felt burning
inside me. I went far. I went deep.
And I still came back empty.
On Good Friday, at 33, in a empty church in Bali
something shifted that I still do not have
full words for. The God sized hole in my soul I had been trying
to fill for decades was suddenly, completely, full.
Not because of anything I did.
Because of something I finally stopped running from.
That is the foundation everything is built on now.
Not a method. Not a philosophy.
A life held by something greater than strategy.
Currently located in Bali. I surf or do reformer pilates in the morning.
I write books that ask the questions
most people are afraid to put on paper.
I’m building Esensi resortwear rooted in lineage & girlhood dream,
a lovergirl book written for the woman who is already whole,
a world for the woman who is dóne
“almost” becoming herself.
I am a mentor, an author, a founder.
But first, a woman who finally came home.
Everything I build comes from that place.
Loving my
feminine essence
ocean life
i've always
dreamed of
already living the lifeOur vision
We believe the women who change the world start with themselves. With what they decide. With what they wear. With what they pass on. Not a movement built on noise. A world built on women who are so fully themselves that everything around them has no choice but to match.
Mothers. Daughters. Women. Building something that lasts beyond them. Esensi is for HER.
the woman who is rooted in where she came from and completely alive in where she is going.
We are all walking each other home.
Our Values // Our Values
Our Values // Our Values
Our Philosophy // Our Philosophy
Our Philosophy // Our Philosophy
Loyalty · Freedom · Love · Faith · Connection · Adventure
Our philosophy
We believe in depth over volume. In choosing quality in your wardrobe, your work, your relationships, your faith. In building slowly, rooted, with full intention. In the woman who leads from who she actually is,not from who she thinks she needs to be to sell, to be chosen, to be enough. In lineage as a brand asset, not a backstory. In god-led living as a foundation, not a footnote. This is not about doing more. This is about being so fully yourself that everything else follows.
Creating Iconic Legacies
“Thank you for all the wonderful sessions, wise lessons and support!”
Dear Mery, where to begin! I booked my first Signature session with you in February 2023 and a lot has changed in the meantime! A big career change, better indicating my boundaries and living more for what I stand for.
Thank you for all the wonderful sessions, wise lessons and support! HIGHLY recommended attending a beautiful Signature session at Mery or to follow the Connected training.”
- Manon Eline Visser, the retreatphotographer
